What a beautifully written and heartfelt guest piece. This got me - "Personally, I always feel like I am in trouble for something, but I’m not sure what, and that I’m not trying hard enough, and that I’m failing myself and everyone else. My answer to that is earrings." Brilliant.
And then reading the rest of the piece and the reasons for that becoming clear. ❤️
What strikes me reading this, and other previous posts, is that for some people, handling money is like walking down a pleasant, empty, sunlit street. It's easy and straightforward and there are few surprises lurking. For others, it's like navigating a tunnel in an Indiana Jones movie, all rolling balls of doom and disappearing bridges. People might be like - why can't you just get to the end of the street, just walk at an even pace?! You're not trying hard enough! But they have no idea about the snake pit that's just around the corner. These obstacles are both psychological and actual. Or psychological so they become actual! 🤪
So we cannot and should not compare how we are each handling money, we are not all walking the same road, as this piece makes clear.
I really enjoyed today's newsletter, both Rowan's guest piece and also the Substack you recommended about being rich in NYC. He was so interesting. Also very glad your money came through quickly Keris. I'm guessing 5:30am is ideally a time to resist checking bank accounts but it's hard now we have instant access isn't it!
I check everything as soon as I wake up. Which is, unfortunately, often 5:30am. I try to check Substack income first so I'm in a more positive mindset before checking my bank account :D
I'm reflecting now on the fact my comment came from a place of financial privilege, not feeling like I have to check it first thing every day. I check my email just in case anyone's magically offered me work overnight though :D
Okay, best interview to date because she's basically me but with a partner :-) Got my diagnosis at 49 - some those sentences I could have written myself, Rowan. Literally.
I relate to this so much especially the executive dysfunction. I know I should do spreadsheets for accounts but my brain ceases up when excel opens. Thanks for your honesty.
My partner spends time balancing his bank account every few days. Me: I work on instinct. This is USUALLY okay, but this month I found I had absolutely blown my credit card. So I'll need to be much more guarded this month. Hopefully I'll have enough at the end of the month to pay it off 🤞🏼
“I am limited in what I can do. But what I can do, I’m doing.” Love that you recognise that doing what you can when you can Keris, is enough 🙏
Definitely no eye rolling at the executive dysfunction analysis. There is so much we haven’t been taught and no focus on getting to the roots of any problem. I’m so glad you and your were financially ok through the pandemic Rowan.
Thank you for such an honest insight into your finances Rowan ❤️
What a beautifully written and heartfelt guest piece. This got me - "Personally, I always feel like I am in trouble for something, but I’m not sure what, and that I’m not trying hard enough, and that I’m failing myself and everyone else. My answer to that is earrings." Brilliant.
And then reading the rest of the piece and the reasons for that becoming clear. ❤️
What strikes me reading this, and other previous posts, is that for some people, handling money is like walking down a pleasant, empty, sunlit street. It's easy and straightforward and there are few surprises lurking. For others, it's like navigating a tunnel in an Indiana Jones movie, all rolling balls of doom and disappearing bridges. People might be like - why can't you just get to the end of the street, just walk at an even pace?! You're not trying hard enough! But they have no idea about the snake pit that's just around the corner. These obstacles are both psychological and actual. Or psychological so they become actual! 🤪
So we cannot and should not compare how we are each handling money, we are not all walking the same road, as this piece makes clear.
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I love this Indiana Jones comparison. Makes so much sense.
Or actual and then become psychological! Perfect analogy, Nicola, thank you.
Ooh good point!
I really enjoyed today's newsletter, both Rowan's guest piece and also the Substack you recommended about being rich in NYC. He was so interesting. Also very glad your money came through quickly Keris. I'm guessing 5:30am is ideally a time to resist checking bank accounts but it's hard now we have instant access isn't it!
I check everything as soon as I wake up. Which is, unfortunately, often 5:30am. I try to check Substack income first so I'm in a more positive mindset before checking my bank account :D
I'm reflecting now on the fact my comment came from a place of financial privilege, not feeling like I have to check it first thing every day. I check my email just in case anyone's magically offered me work overnight though :D
Loved this post thank you for sharing ❤️
Okay, best interview to date because she's basically me but with a partner :-) Got my diagnosis at 49 - some those sentences I could have written myself, Rowan. Literally.
I'm going to take the paywall off your post and share it tomorrow, Susannah x
Wonderful! Had I had my diagnosis by that point? I can't remember what I wrote #adhd 😂🤪
You’d just had it!
Thank you x
I relate to this so much especially the executive dysfunction. I know I should do spreadsheets for accounts but my brain ceases up when excel opens. Thanks for your honesty.
This was a tough and vulnerable read and really highlights the need for the work you’re doing Keris by opening up these money conversations.
Thanks, Linn.
My partner spends time balancing his bank account every few days. Me: I work on instinct. This is USUALLY okay, but this month I found I had absolutely blown my credit card. So I'll need to be much more guarded this month. Hopefully I'll have enough at the end of the month to pay it off 🤞🏼
“I am limited in what I can do. But what I can do, I’m doing.” Love that you recognise that doing what you can when you can Keris, is enough 🙏
Definitely no eye rolling at the executive dysfunction analysis. There is so much we haven’t been taught and no focus on getting to the roots of any problem. I’m so glad you and your were financially ok through the pandemic Rowan.
Thanks, Amber.
Ooof hard relate on a lot of this. Thanks both. ✨❤️