And I want to talk to other women about it too. Even when it’s scary. Even when the thought of it makes you feel sick. I want to know how it feels to have enormous debt. I want to know what it’s like to never have to worry about money. I want to talk to women who haven’t even thought about a pension, who wake up at night and wonder how they’re going to pay the bills.
Sounds like a fantastic idea, Keris! Facing my own financial challenges in light of the change in my relationship status has been stomach clenching lately but you’re right, I just haven’t had anyone to talk to about money or my finances. And it can be scary.
This doesn't get talked about enough, Keris. Someone I've known from childhood is still 'living' with the husband she got divorced from two years ago because he was entitled to half of everything (including her private/work pension) and can't afford to move out. These things we don't think about when we're all loved-up and think Pre-Nups are for the flaky. Financial dependence is a crippling way to live.
My daughter has just left school and was taught nothing about budgeting, debt, interest rates etc. I am sure it is the same for boys. She failed maths partly because she could not see the point. It took me years to properly manage money, so I am teaching her as best I can. Let's start by teaching the young.
I’m 43 and admit that I am drowning in debt. I have never been great with finances. Now married almost 20 years and still we are not good with money. And I was an RN for 11 years just recently decided that being a bedside RN is not aligned with my health....mental and physical. 4 kids, cancer, bankruptcy, comeback, downfall. I don’t like the idea of planning because then there’s always this looming what if I die tomorrow, or Continue to work myself to death to save money for a day that will never come. It’s a pretty mentally taxing vicious cycle
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your Substack Keris! I write about money in my day job and it's forever fascinating how something as "neutral" as money can have all these different emotions/associations attached to it. I'm in my 40s (not technically mid-life but getting there!) and oh boy have the financial needs changed! It was been interesting navigating some of them to say the least.
Oh Keris, I too am so glad to find you! Starting at the beginning here…will get up to speed but yeah nobody talks about this stuff over here in Oz. Most of my friends, women and men of a certain age, are really comfy with property, super funds etc. meanwhile I have zilch and how did that happen? We were all political creatives together but somehow they got lucky? They got clever? And we never talk about it. Looking forward to reading more!
Honest and open talk about money is so important and I’m absolutely here for it. Can’t believe I haven’t found your Substack before now, but glad I’m here! 🙌🏻
Just what I needed to read! I am facing mega financial challenges, out of the blue, having been kept in the dark by my husband! I went through so many emotions in the last two years!!!!! But I am still standing and determined to find ways to stability and success! Reading your blog post made me suddenly feel sort of better … thank you!
Keris I don’t think you’d have enough time for a conversation with me about Money 💷 it’s my Achilles Heel and pretty much all drama in my life has been a result of money issues… I even started writing a book about it a few years ago. I’m trying my best to change that story now though 🙂💖
Such a fascinating topic - 63 and with a VERY rocky relationship with money! I was the first person in my family to have an overdraft, which my mother decided was 'stealing from the bank'.
I am married to an accountant whose family would tax his pocket money and he comes from a very different place, which makes for a lot of friction
What?! A vagina! You mean you don't call it "down there"? (where's that emoji?!) Isn't it odd what is sometimes considered to be "vulgar", giving real body parts their real names and talking about MONEY?
Sounds like a fantastic idea, Keris! Facing my own financial challenges in light of the change in my relationship status has been stomach clenching lately but you’re right, I just haven’t had anyone to talk to about money or my finances. And it can be scary.
You can always message me if you need to talk x
This doesn't get talked about enough, Keris. Someone I've known from childhood is still 'living' with the husband she got divorced from two years ago because he was entitled to half of everything (including her private/work pension) and can't afford to move out. These things we don't think about when we're all loved-up and think Pre-Nups are for the flaky. Financial dependence is a crippling way to live.
And yet it’s incredibly common.
My daughter has just left school and was taught nothing about budgeting, debt, interest rates etc. I am sure it is the same for boys. She failed maths partly because she could not see the point. It took me years to properly manage money, so I am teaching her as best I can. Let's start by teaching the young.
yes yes and yes!
I’m 43 and admit that I am drowning in debt. I have never been great with finances. Now married almost 20 years and still we are not good with money. And I was an RN for 11 years just recently decided that being a bedside RN is not aligned with my health....mental and physical. 4 kids, cancer, bankruptcy, comeback, downfall. I don’t like the idea of planning because then there’s always this looming what if I die tomorrow, or Continue to work myself to death to save money for a day that will never come. It’s a pretty mentally taxing vicious cycle
It really is. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with so much.
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your Substack Keris! I write about money in my day job and it's forever fascinating how something as "neutral" as money can have all these different emotions/associations attached to it. I'm in my 40s (not technically mid-life but getting there!) and oh boy have the financial needs changed! It was been interesting navigating some of them to say the least.
Hi! I’m so happy you found me.
That sounds weird now I read it back. Happy to find you too!
Oh Keris, I too am so glad to find you! Starting at the beginning here…will get up to speed but yeah nobody talks about this stuff over here in Oz. Most of my friends, women and men of a certain age, are really comfy with property, super funds etc. meanwhile I have zilch and how did that happen? We were all political creatives together but somehow they got lucky? They got clever? And we never talk about it. Looking forward to reading more!
Honest and open talk about money is so important and I’m absolutely here for it. Can’t believe I haven’t found your Substack before now, but glad I’m here! 🙌🏻
Hi Hannah! I’m glad you’re here too.
Just what I needed to read! I am facing mega financial challenges, out of the blue, having been kept in the dark by my husband! I went through so many emotions in the last two years!!!!! But I am still standing and determined to find ways to stability and success! Reading your blog post made me suddenly feel sort of better … thank you!
Oh gosh, I’m so sorry. But glad it made you feel better.
Keris I don’t think you’d have enough time for a conversation with me about Money 💷 it’s my Achilles Heel and pretty much all drama in my life has been a result of money issues… I even started writing a book about it a few years ago. I’m trying my best to change that story now though 🙂💖
Good luck with changing your story. And I have plenty of time! I’ve been writing this substack for two years 😂
I might turn it into a mini book and publish the chapters on here 🤔 watch this space… 🙂
I loved reading you intro! So glad someone recommended you. You speak to me directly in what you say! 😌
Thank you!
Such a fascinating topic - 63 and with a VERY rocky relationship with money! I was the first person in my family to have an overdraft, which my mother decided was 'stealing from the bank'.
I am married to an accountant whose family would tax his pocket money and he comes from a very different place, which makes for a lot of friction
What?! A vagina! You mean you don't call it "down there"? (where's that emoji?!) Isn't it odd what is sometimes considered to be "vulgar", giving real body parts their real names and talking about MONEY?
We grew up calling it “front bottom” 😂
What!!!???huh??? Hadn't heard that one before! We have a long way to go derailing female genitalia shame…