I really, really appreciate these perspectives! Money is my final frontier, that thing I need to really take a look and that's holding me back. This is exactly what I needed to read this morning! I really do see my own "normal" that is one I'm ready to change. "Worthy of money", well, isn't that just the thing! How many times have I felt I need to be "generous" when really, what it means is giving money, or paying for the restaurant/coffee/thingy when it's not really in the budget. Budget? says that part of me that does these things...What's a budget for when you have no money to budget with...
Ah, the stories we tell ourselves!!! I get so much out of reading these posts and yet having the same conversations with the women in my life just doesn't go well...
Thanks Keris! I'd love to say, Coffee's on me! and it will be and sooner rather that later, I'm hoping now that I'm working on these new skills.
I’m so glad you’re finding the posts helpful, Corrine. I’ve read that feeling the need to be generous is part of the “fawn” response - you know, fight, flight, freeze, fawn? That’s my response too. I’m hoping to write about it more as I learn about it more, but let me find one post…
Wow! Yep!!! I really appreciate you sending these bits! It's felt odd for a long time, at odds really my money "aversion" and habits. Like it didn't make sense. How could I be so intelligent, resilient, well-educated, etc. and yet struggle so much in this part of my life. It's so important!!!
I don't believe a surprise infusion of wealth would change my lifestyle. I'd drive a more reliable car, and I'd start hiring people to do some of the work on our house -- I'd love to never again have to install a toilet, for example! -- but I'd be most interested in making sure my kids and grandkids could live a life free of financial worry.
Hard relate on this Keris. Money trauma is real and often affects wealthy people also. I was laughing at the comments because I often joke about how I would have no provoke with “sudden wealth syndrome” but it’s no joke. Deep roots xx
Absolutely. I just heard someone today - maybe Ramit Sethi, I listened to his podcast - that unless you deal with your money trauma it’s going to show up whether you have no money or millions.
"If you want my life, you need to have all of my life” - very true...
I’d be willing to give it a go though 😂
Super interesting, as always!
Thanks, Katie!
I really, really appreciate these perspectives! Money is my final frontier, that thing I need to really take a look and that's holding me back. This is exactly what I needed to read this morning! I really do see my own "normal" that is one I'm ready to change. "Worthy of money", well, isn't that just the thing! How many times have I felt I need to be "generous" when really, what it means is giving money, or paying for the restaurant/coffee/thingy when it's not really in the budget. Budget? says that part of me that does these things...What's a budget for when you have no money to budget with...
Ah, the stories we tell ourselves!!! I get so much out of reading these posts and yet having the same conversations with the women in my life just doesn't go well...
Thanks Keris! I'd love to say, Coffee's on me! and it will be and sooner rather that later, I'm hoping now that I'm working on these new skills.
I’m so glad you’re finding the posts helpful, Corrine. I’ve read that feeling the need to be generous is part of the “fawn” response - you know, fight, flight, freeze, fawn? That’s my response too. I’m hoping to write about it more as I learn about it more, but let me find one post…
https://open.substack.com/pub/theladybirdpurse/p/whats-your-financial-stress-response?r=4mdt&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false
Wow! Yep!!! I really appreciate you sending these bits! It's felt odd for a long time, at odds really my money "aversion" and habits. Like it didn't make sense. How could I be so intelligent, resilient, well-educated, etc. and yet struggle so much in this part of my life. It's so important!!!
So much of it is structural too. Doesn’t matter how smart, etc., we are, money can be a struggle in so many ways.
I don't believe a surprise infusion of wealth would change my lifestyle. I'd drive a more reliable car, and I'd start hiring people to do some of the work on our house -- I'd love to never again have to install a toilet, for example! -- but I'd be most interested in making sure my kids and grandkids could live a life free of financial worry.
Thanks for this interview Keris, and to Anna for her openness, I found it really interesting and thought-provoking.
You’re so welcome.
Hard relate on this Keris. Money trauma is real and often affects wealthy people also. I was laughing at the comments because I often joke about how I would have no provoke with “sudden wealth syndrome” but it’s no joke. Deep roots xx
Absolutely. I just heard someone today - maybe Ramit Sethi, I listened to his podcast - that unless you deal with your money trauma it’s going to show up whether you have no money or millions.
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